Stress can be caused by a number of different factors, most of which are actually relatively easy to remedy. The trouble is, most people just don’t stop to think about the issues that cause them stress. They just live day to day, experiencing stress, and having absolutely no way to do anything about it.
Like any problem, if you don’t know the root cause of stress, you can’t really do much about it. You might be able to take medication to remedy it, but you’re just putting a temporary band aid on it. The stress will return once you stop taking the medication, and you can’t take these prescriptions indefinitely, because they can be extremely addictive.
We’re going to take a look at the top 5 major causes of stress in the average person’s daily life, as well as some quick tips for managing the stress that comes from these daily issues.
Cause #1 – Money Problems
The single most common cause of stress in most people’s lives is a lack of money. When you don’t have enough money, stress can come from all sorts of areas. Not only do you have to worry about losing your utilities, your car, your possessions, and even your home, but you also receive added stress in the form of arguments with your partner or spouse, and your children. If money worries are causing you a lot of stress, you might consider seeing a professional financial planner or accountant who might be able to help you get your finances under control.
Cause #2 – Relationship Difficulties
It should be no big surprise that relationship difficulties are a very common cause of stress. Most people have arguments with their partner at least occasionally, but when you start arguing on a regular basis, it can become extremely stressful. If you’re experiencing a significant amount of stress in your relationship, you should sit down with your partner and talk about it.
Chances are, they are experiencing a lot of stress over the issues, too. They may be just as eager to solve the problems as you are. If you can’t seem to work out your problems together, you might consider relationship counseling. Therapy can really help whenever you have issues that you can’t solve without intervention.
Cause #3 – Problems at Work
A lot of people have problems at work. When you work with other people, there are bound to be issues that crop up. Even if you get along really well with your coworkers, you will probably have problems with things like deadlines, quotas, and other work‐related issues. The first step whenever you have a problem at work is to talk it out with someone.
If your issue is with a coworker, you should talk to them first. Don’t go to your boss first. This will hopefully help earn you some respect from that coworker, and you’ll also save your boss from having to deal with an issue you might be able to take care of yourself. If you talk to your coworker and don’t manage to resolve anything, then you may need to go to your boss. Try not to be too negative about the situation, and try not to put too much blame on the other person. Accusations could end up making you look bad. Just tell your boss that you’ve been having problems with this person and that you haven’t been able to resolve it with them directly, despise numerous attempts.
Let your boss know that you don’t want to rock the boat, but the problem is affecting your work, and you’d like to ask for help resolving it. Be sure to apologize for having to bring the issue to your undoubtedly very busy boss. Hopefully your boss will be able to help you effectively resolve the situation. If the problem relates to your work performance in some way, you may need to figure out why. If you are having trouble meeting deadlines or quotas, or you’re having trouble getting your work done without errors, you may be having problems with either mental difficulties or time management.
If your problems are related to mental issues like concentration or brain fog, you
could look into dietary problems or the possibility that you may have an issue like ADD. Your doctor may be able to help with this.
Cause #4 – Time Management Problems
Stress in the workplace (and elsewhere) may be rooted in time management difficulties. If you have trouble managing your time effectively, you won’t be able to get the things you need to finish done in a reasonable period of time, and this could lead to significant stress.
Most people simply don’t learn effective time management skills. It isn’t something that is taught in most schools, and parents don’t generally formally teach it to their children. In fact, most parents probably don’t have very effective time management skills themselves, so it would be hard for them to teach it to their kids.
If you think you have trouble with time management, you might want to pick up a good book on the subject. You might be shocked at just how helpful it is to learn effective time management skills!
Cause #5 – Problems with Friends or Family
Interpersonal problems are definitely a major cause of stress in most people’s lives. The worst of this kind of stress comes from romantic relationships because there is so much passion involved, but it can come from any personal relationship. Interpersonal relationship stress may come from children, parents, siblings, grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, friends, coworkers, neighbors, and pretty much anyone you can imagine. When you begin experiencing a significant amount of stress because of your relationship with a particular individual, you have two choices:
• Work it out with them
• End all contact with them
If the person giving you problems is your child, you may not be able to cut off contact with them. It can be a huge source of guilt to cut a child out of your life. The same thing might be true for your parents or siblings, and perhaps other relatives, too.
Obviously, the first step would be to approach the other party and tell them you’d like to work things out. Just be honest and tell them how things are affecting you, and ask if you can work something out. They may be willing to listen if they really care about you.
Therapy is another option. If the two of you can’t work something out on your own, perhaps a neutral mediator like a family counselor could help. It may be tough to get them to agree to go, but it could be very helpful if you can. As a last resort, you may have no choice but to cut off all contact. Unfortunately, some interpersonal relationships will always be a major source of stress. It’s up to you to decide whether the person is worth having in your life even though they cause you so much distress.
Stress is all around us. It’s a part of our lives each and every day. It’s vital to learn the sources of your stress so you can control them. If you let it, stress can consume you and make you very ill!